January 2, 2018

Arrogant denial?

Posted in Uncategorized at 1:12 am by merelyquirky

via Autscriptic: Mild Autism

https://autnot.wordpress.com/2017/12/28/autscriptic-mild-autism/

That is my life, but without the deft comebacks. Any time I admit not being able to do something well. Any time I admit that my ‘slacker’ life is the most I can do, and sometimes can’t even handle this.

Under the guise of ‘helpfulness’ or ‘caring’, people insist I explain why “a smart person like you” is not doing more/better.  (Because apparently being stupid is the only reason for anyone to do my job.)  And then they judge me for any answer I give, or criticize me for being ‘defensive’ if I object to the question in the first place. This is a no-win situation for me, I have never once managed to extricate myself gracefully (or at least civilly), or to come up with a brief answer that is both true and vague, without ending with versions of MYOB and GTFO.

I have asked (in advance, friends or family)for suggestions on how to deal with this, but it just prompts the exact same conversations I was looking for help avoiding. I feel like I’m being autopsied, and like it’s somehow my own fault.

I just don’t know what to do.

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1 Comment »

  1. Merely Quirky, your blog is currently included on our Actually Autistic Blogs List (anautismobserver.wordpress.com). Please click on the “How do you want your blog listed?” link at the top of that site to customize your blog’s description.
    Thank you.
    Judy (An Autism Observer)


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